HUSBAND SCARCITY

HUSBAND SCARCITY has become one of the challenges faced by many women today, if you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for life partner. And this calls for concern.

Going memory lane to the time of our mothers and grandmothers was there really much of a "husband scarcity'' problem? Or maybe there were more men than women then, or there were adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not pack into already built home.

What am i really trying to insinuate? We created what we now see as "husband scarcity'' for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband - you hear things like "he has to be tall handsome, dark and rich, own a house at least and be presentable'' and then she adds "God fearing'' in order not to sound so worldly. What a wonderful dream! Then check the number of women around you and the number of men that can meet standard and you will see the problem.

The problem is that the description majority of ladies give of their ideal man is virtually the same when 50 ladies want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just one man and the decided to pick one, then what becomes of 49 others? They start lamenting of "husband scarcity''.

In the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all this things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in illicit way of getting money) and even the numbers of these men involved in this illegal act is not enough to match all those searching for already made husband and besides most of them are not husband materials. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance in good value and virtue and who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects are married and not complaining of "husband scarcity''.

Now, what is the solution to "husband scarcity''? The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God created then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for creating him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him and he felt complete and fulfilled.

“MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM” It is a mission of building the family that will serve God here on earth and is a benefit to mankind. For those who see marriage as a way out of women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS, DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow.

Sometimes the lady MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT MAN’S DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "Husband scarcity'' PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and start talking about marriage. REMEMBER NOT ALL MEN ARE HUSBAND MATERIALS.

Relax, pray to God, seek direction, get counsel and trust God at all things. Wedding is a day but marriage is forever. God did not just create EVE for creating sake. He created her for ADAM'S need to be met. Likewise you (all ladies) you were not created for creating sake (unless God has a special calling on you) you were all created to meet a particular man's need and THAT MAN MAY BE THAT ONE THAT DOESN'T FIT INTO YOUR "EXORBITANT STANDARD'' do not despise or look down on any man, because it doesn't take God a second to turn around someone destiny, a man not so rich or an average man in DECEMBER, God can bless him to be very rich by JANUARY.

Obanla Adedotun Peter.

Department: civil engineering.

Federal University of Technology, Minna